New Year’s Resolutions + A New Direction for the Blog

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Details of this look HERE (I linked a similar non maternity sweater below but the exact sweater and jeans are linked on this other post)

 

Everyone is sharing their New Year’s Resolutions and/or “word of the year” and I’m over here like, “I just want to sleep” šŸ˜‰ HA! This third trimester insomnia is kinda rough. It’s getting more and more difficult to find a comfortable sleeping position right about now. However, that being said, I have no idea what I’d do without my pregnancy pillow (aka “raft”, as my husband and I call it!). I’m so glad I broke down and got it. Definitely worth the $50. I wished I had it for my first pregnancy. Hear me now when I say it isn’t frivolous. BUY IT! *Side note: I just got the best concealer for those dark under eye circles! I usually rely on my trusty Beautycounter concealer (I wear shade “light”), but I needed something with a bit more coverage for days when I just haven’t gotten enough sleep. It’s amazing and I’ll link it here. I wear it in shade “light medium.” A little goes a looooong way!*

But anyway, back to the New Year. I’ve actually been reflecting on my life and what I enjoy doing, where I want to go, what I want to do, yada yada before the holidays hit. This pregnancy has reminded me how excited and passionate I get about labor, delivery, and the fourth trimester (those first 3 months after baby is here). I was very protective of what I allowed myself to hear about labor the first time around and I’m being very conscientious of it now, too. Everyone wants to share their horror stories and it just didn’t jive with me. I didn’t want to let fear settle in and create doubts about what my body could do. Thankfully I had read a few books that were very empowering and I decided that positive affirmations and arming myself with an amazing doula and knowledge of the human body would help me as I prepared for labor and delivery.

It paid off. I had an intensely magical delivery of Charley and was on the highest high after I delivered him. I shared a {pretty lengthy} account of it HERE. It made me sad to realize so many people have such horrible stories about their births. Those memories stick with you forever and I hated that so much fear surrounded such a beautiful time. Birth is a beautiful thing. Yes, it’s messy, but it’s miraculous and amazing. And so empowering.

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have any doubts about labor and delivery this time around, but having an unmedicated delivery was SO empowering and taught me that I am stronger than I realized. It also taught me the power of environment. The people I chose to surround myself with made a huge difference in the success of a smooth unmedicated delivery. It probably helped that my mom had delivered 6 (yes, 6!) babies unmedicated, too. It gave me confidence.

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Cardigan is from Vici Dolls (sold out!) I’m loving this knit pom one and this cozy one! (looks SO soft!)

I tell you all this because as much as I love style, shopping, health living, etc., I’m most passionate about birth and motherhood. I haven’t been as inspired to write about fashion and even though I love love love to shop (sorry, Ben!), encouraging other moms and new moms especially, is what really gets me going. I’ve decided to embrace that, and if motherhood isn’t your thing, feel free to skip past the motherhood posts! But being a mom is such a huge part of who I am and I love the community and encouragement I’ve found in other moms, especially those I’ve met through blogging and on Instagram. We need to lift each other up as much as we can. Motherhood is a hard job, no matter what it looks like for you. It’s definitely fun to connect with others and share our love for cute clothes and shoes, but I see that as icing on the cake. I crave deeper connection with people and I want to help make a lasting impact on someone’s life. If I played the smallest role in helping them have the birth they wanted, I’d cry.

So what are my New Year’s Resolutions? Well one of them is to share more about motherhood with you all and to embrace my “mom blogger” status. I don’t want anyone to feel alone and if I can help someone feel less alone in any way, I’ll be overjoyed and fulfilled. Another goal I have for this year is to give myself more grace. There isn’t a rulebook for how to be a mom because not one child is like another. {That’s why books on sleeping never helped me with Charley!! šŸ˜‰ Oh my little FOMO baby…] I want to be everything to everyone, but I can’t. And I need to accept that and give myself grace. I also want to grow in patience. I want to take deep breaths when I want to explode and show my toddler that I can be calm even when he is losing it. I’ve been practicing more of my yoga breathing recently and I think it’s helping šŸ˜‰ That and lots of small prayers!

I’m so excited to start sharing more with you guys and I hope you find community here!

What are your New Year’s Resolutions? Or do you have a word that you’ve chosen? I’d love to hear!

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  1. January 9, 2018 / 2:32 am

    I love this post and have had three wonderful deliveries thank God. We are so strong and half the battle is mental so you got this! I too feel like ah I need to find a niche and agree motherhood I am most passionate about. Looking forward to lots of #momlife posts from you, happy to be a new follower!

    • elindsey
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      January 9, 2018 / 9:12 pm

      You’re so sweet! I agree – it’s mostly mental! I’m so glad you’re here and that you commented. Hearing from other moms about their positive birth stories is so encouraging and I think it’s helpful for others to read! xx

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